Chinese New Year Celebration in KL: of family values and friendships

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Rose’ at Hyde Bar

This year, I celebrated Chinese New Year with my husband and in-laws in KL, Malaysia.

It’s the first time I celebrated Chinese New Year in KL and this year, I really had to budge since my husband is up in arms already that I haven’t met his cousins on Mum’s side.

To manage my own expectations, I asked him what we were going to do during the 3-day weekend. The brief summary blithely given to me: eat, drink, gamble. Repeat. I’m not a fan of gambling so I pretty much stuck with eat, drink, eat, drink. Repeat.

Everything about the Chinese New Year revolved around family and friends.  New Year’s Eve is traditionally the reunion dinner where the extended family gather together to share a meal and catch up.  The married relatives distribute ang paos (Chinese red envelopes with money inside) to the remaining single cousins and the children of the family.

To open the reunion dinner, we all did the Prosperity Toss with Yee Sang, a Teochew-style raw fish salad (usually salmon) mixed with shredded vegetables and assorted sauces and condiments. Yee sang is the symbol of abundance, prosperity and good health. It is a ceremony wherein all the family members are given a pair of chopsticks and everyone surrounds the yee sang. We all started tossing and mixing the yee sang while we were all shouting our wishes and prayers for the year: good health, prosperity, promotion, boyfriend, girlfriend, wealthy husband for cousin Kristina, more trips abroad for the family, etc.

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our yee sang during CNY eve reunion dinner

Admittedly, I enjoyed the yee sang experience because I never did that with my Chinese cousins and friends in Manila.

After the yee sang was tossed and after all the mess (the messier, the better, apparently, because you have to toss it very high up in the air), the entire family sits down for dinner where the yee sang is shared and the rest of the food is served.

CNY assorted cookies

CNY assorted cookies

Apart from all kinds of meat that you can think of, I noticed that there were A LOT of biscuits and cookies. And I mean A LOT. There were almond cookies, pineapple tarts,  butter cookies and other kinds of biscuits that I can’t even pronounced. I got particularly hooked with the pineapple tarts, I think I walloped half the jar!

Other observations about Chinese New Year specific to KL:

  • Chinese and Chinese-owned shops were closed for the entire weekend. Yes, even in the malls, they close down.  Unfortunately for me, even my favorite BMS Organics was closed. It was a good thing that we already had lunch there before the festivities.
  • There was NO traffic in KL and PJ. The streets were pretty quiet, there were less cars and people since most of them went back home to their respective towns and villages.
  • Fireworks were regulated in Malaysia. Apparently, it is prohibited for individuals to light their own firecrackers and the government is the one doing this in central locations.
  • Most of the restaurants in the shop lots are closed on New Year’s day but some bars are open, but only with bar food being served.
  • Friends are normally invited to lunches and dinners to eat, drink and gamble. It’s open house season!

At the end of the day, the universal thing about Chinese New Year is welcoming it together with family and friends, fully armed with optimism and well-wishes that the New Year will bring good fortune, good health and good tidings.

I hope everyone had a blast celebrating Chinese New Year. I sure hell did!

For more useful information and tips about celebrating Chinese New Year in Malaysia, here are some links:

http://www.wonderfulmalaysia.com/attractions/chinese-new-year-in-malaysia.htm

https://kwgls.wordpress.com/2015/02/14/special-compilation-of-chinese-new-year-cookies-snacks-and-cakes-recipes/

Chinese New Year in Malaysia

Happy Chinese new year 2017 with golden rooster , animal symbol of new year 2017

Happy Chinese new year 2017 with golden rooster , animal symbol of new year 2017

Late last night, I flew in to KL, Malaysia to celebrate Chinese New Year here with family and friends.  It will be 3 days of food and drinks… and more food and drinks (Good luck to me losing the additional pounds from last Christmas!).

Tonight, we will be having the family reunion dinner at an Uncle’s home. It will be my first time to meet some of the cousins, too. The rest of the weekend will be spent with friends who I haven’t seen since November and a Sunday brunch with Mum and Dad (in-laws).

Malaysia is my 3rd most frequently visited country every year, as we come back to visit family and friends in Kuala Lumpur (KL) and Petaling Jaya (PJ). Our family and friends are mostly in PJ, so much of the activities this weekend will be here.

Aside from the CNY celebration and catching up, my one and only shopping mission for this trip is to visit BMS Organics, a restaurant cum grocery where I buy my organic supplements and organic make-up. Yes, they have organic make-up, since BMS is one of the official distributors of Benecos.

One thing I love about KL and PJ is that both cities are a haven for organic stores, produce and cosmetics! I will write about this later on, but for now, time to hit the road for a BMS lunch and splurge on my lipsticks!

Happy Year of the Rooster, everyone! Love and light this coming year!

Batik love

tjut-in-batik-dressFine. I admit it. I have batik envy. I’m very jealous that Indonesians have this fashion heritage that they can wear on a daily basis, for almost any occasion. The culture highly encourages it, too.

Every Monday, my office requires us to wear batik clothes – a requirement that I’m more than happy to comply with. Like what I said in one of my previous posts, my batik addiction is quite infamous in my circle of friends.

Batik is one of Indonesia’s highly developed art forms. The word was probably derived from the Javanese language: amba  (to write) and titik (dot).

Batik is a designed fabric wherein the colors of the textiles are dyed and wax is applied to the parts that are left undyed. Drawings and embellishments are added by hand or by stamping patterns on them.

There are also different kinds of batik. When an Indonesian looks at a batik print, they would know whether it came from Solo, Yogyakarta, Java, Madura and so on.

If you are a foreigner visiting or living in Indonesia, you will definitely come across batik and experience it, as the fabric is used for almost everything: clothes, scarves, bags, slippers, table runners, bed covers, bookmarks, etc. Name it – batik design and fabric are both integrated into Indonesians’ lifestyle and fashion. It’s a pleasing sensory assault, as the multitude of designs can be visually overwhelming.

Indonesians wear batik for almost any occasion: daily wear, office clothes, for cocktails,
weddings and other special events. I tend to do the same thing, although I prefer the modern prints. I even packed my batik pants and dresses and brought them back with me to Manila for the holidays. I wore all my batik culottes and aladdin pants over the Christmas season. It gave me that nice feeling that I will never come across anyone wearing the same thing.

At the same time, most of the Christmas presents I distributed to my Manila friends were made of batik: scarves, bags and wallets. The prints are just too beautiful not to share.

Batik is one of Indonesia’s art and heritage. Indonesians wear and use their batik with pride. The lesson learned here is that they managed to make it mainstream so much so that it’s part of their daily lives.

Yes, jealous, I’m very jealous because how I wish Filipino fabrics and textile are not just used during Miss Universe. I wish Mindanao’s T’nalak and Yakan can be more mainstream and sold as RTWs. I also wish us Pinoys can be more proud of our clothes and heritage and that there’s a local designer who can take it into our department stores or partner with local brands to sell them.

But I’m also very glad that I get to wear my colorful batik garb in the office, at parties and events. Hell yeah, I’m buying some more (much to the chagrin of my househelp who complains that I don’t have enough hangers already!).

Buying batik also helps the local industry. I go to both big brands (which are also local, by the way) and online sellers. For the big brands in malls:

  1. Bateeq – available in most malls in Jakarta. I usually visit the one in Kuningan City and Plaza Indonesia.
  2. Batik Keris – available in major Jakarta malls. They have batik clothes, scarves, bags, and home furnishings.

For the online sellers, my favorites include:

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  1. Nan Elok – allows me to customize my colors and my cut. Plus, her pre-orders arrive fast!
  2. MyBatiq – is reasonably priced with a very friendly seller. She has a lot of variety when it comes to culottes and aladdin pants.
  3. Batik Amarillis – has quirky designs with a hint of Dutch influence. They don’t have shops in the malls but they have a studio in Tangerang and they have pop-up stores all around Jakarta.

The rest of my everyday wear come from Bellagio Mall and other pop-up markets I frequently visit during the weekend.

This year, I’d like to get to know the batik heritage some more, to the point that I know the difference between a Pekalongan batik and a Palembang batik. I’m sure my Indonesian friends won’t mind teaching me, or better yet, shopping with me for these!

Here are more links about batik as Indonesia’s heritage, its types and variations:

 

 

What’s in a name?

bellaexpatria_fb-photoToday, I finally decided to nail down the official name for my blog.

For bloggers who’ve been around for a long time, I’m sure they can relate to this debacle. Truth is,  nothing is original in the blog sphere anymore. Most of the good names are taken and the domain names (especially the .com and .net) are already long booked.

It all seems so simple and shallow, but everything is dependent on the blog name. EVERYTHING. The domain name you will buy, your site’s SEO, your profiles and Gravatar.

I have not started integrating my profiles and accounts, for this very simple yet complicated reason. I haven’t promoted my blog either, nor have I created a Facebook page until this afternoon, until I was finally sure about my blog name.

So here it goes.

Bella Expatria. For all the women travelers. For all my fellow expats. For us, glorified OFWs. For all my fellow lakwatcheros and lakwatcheras. I want to share my stories: the fun, the adventure and the sometimes awkward and embarrassing moments of trying to assimilate to different cultures.

Hope you guys continue to read on.  =)

For my fellow bloggers, blogger wannabes and to those who are just starting, I found these tips quite helpful:

  1. Creative Blog Names
  2. How to come up with a perfect blog name
  3. Finding inspiration for your blog name

Weekend hits: What to do in Jakarta when you’re staying in the city

Last weekend was the very first semi-sane weekend that I spent in Jakarta, which was exactly what I needed: to stay put and have some quiet time after a work-week inundated by nothing but meetings and boardroom presentations.

I always get these questions from friends in Manila: “So what is your typical weekend in Jakarta? What is there to do in Jakarta? Is it still traffic during the weekends?”

To finally shed light on what’s happening here in my side of town (yes, it’s still traffic in some parts of the city), I’m sharing what a quiet Jakarta weekend looks like. Here’s my initial weekend top 5:

1. Healthy Saturday breakfast. In South Jakarta, my go-to restaurants for great coffee and avocado toast are Saint ALi in Setiabudi and Lucky Cat Coffee and Kitchen in the Plaza Festival complex.

Saint ALi is originally from Australia and luckily, Jakarta is the first branch outside of it. Their coffee game is strong and they offer a lot of variety. The baristas definitely know their coffee and you can ask for recommendations. I regularly order their flat white with Dama almond milk paired with my favorite Avo on Toast.

Another great news for those who love macarons: Saint ALi also partnered with La Maison Patisserie. There is an array of colorful macarons to choose from, with eccentric flavors, too. I tried the salted egg yolk and the salted popcorn and they tasted good, in a weird way.

On the other hand, Lucky Cat is currently one of the hippest coffee shops in town (yes, there is always a line and you can’t make reservations). They’re open 24 hours, too! They have a much shorter menu for both coffee and food, but if you’re into flavored latte or affogatto, this is the place to be! I prefer their mushroom and avocado on toast over Saint Ali’s, to be honest. It’s creamier and more savory, but since this place is one of the newest, it also runs out pretty fast.

Side bar: I don’t know why, but Indonesia seems to have better-tasting avocados, compared to the Philippines. Theirs is more buttery and sweet-tasting, you just can’t have enough of it.

Saint ALi
+6321-52906814
Price Range is around Rp300k for 2 people
Hours: 7am to 8pm
Address : Setiabudi Two, Ground Floor, Jl. HR Rasuna Said, Setiabudi, Jakarta
Lucky Cat Coffee and Kitchen
+621-52961475
Price range: Rp300k for 2 people
Open 24 hours
Plaza Festival, South Parking, Jl. HR Rasuna Said, Kuningan Jakarta

 

2.  Books! When I was a newbie in Jakarta, I had a hard time looking for English books. I didn’t know where to go. Indonesia has Gramedia bookstore but majority of the books they sell are in Bahasa Indonesia. There were English books but quite limited, in terms of bestsellers and new releases line-up. Luckily, I discovered Periplus in Plaza Indonesia in one of my cardio window shopping spree. Periplus branches are modest in size but they pack a lot of bestsellers and popular authors.

A weekend well-spent is a Periplus shopping spree and an afternoon spent in a coffee shop reading one of the bestsellers you just bought. In my case, I usually go to the Lotte Shopping Mall in Ciputra World since it’s in my ‘hood.

3. Batik shopping. My love for Indonesian batik is infamous among my friends. I wear them everywhere, for any occasion. For cheap batik shopping, Ambasador and ITC malls in South Jakarta are the places-to-be. One of my secret shopping jaunts though is the Bellagio Mall. There is always a bazaar in the middle of Bellagio Mall with around 5 stalls selling batik from Solo, Yogyakarta and Bandung. It’s very near my office and apartment so I end up buying whenever I pass by (or whenever I can come up with reasons to do so!). Price ranges from Rp150k to Rp300k.

For the bold and the brave, Thamrin City is the best place to buy batik coming from all over Indonesia. Imagine 5 floors of batik shops! I always, always get lost whenever I go, but I never get tired of going. You can find batik fabrics, RTW, shoes, bags and handicrafts. There are 2 main caveats: beware of pickpockets and traffic is a b*tch. Better to park your car if you’re driving in Plaza Indonesia or just go take Uber or Blue Bird taxi.

4. The most underrated but most divine treatment: Crème bath. Crème bath is essentially a hot oil treatment, with a pleasant twist: the head and scalp massage lasts for an hour! For someone like me who loves a scalp massage more than any kind of spa treatment, this is my best stress reliever! Most salons would have this treatment, but my favorite spots are at Alfons in Lotte Shopping Mall or Hair Code at Epicentrum, Rasuna Said.

Jakarta also has a better blow styling method that is longer lasting. Whenever I have to go to a Sunday brunch, I head to the salon first to get my crème bath treatment and a blow-dry after.

Alfons Salon
+621-298890677
Hours : 10am – 10pm
Lotte Shopping Avenue
Jl. Prof Dr. Satrio Kav. 3 – 5, RT.18/RW.4, Karet Kuningan, Setiabudi, Jakarta Selatan, Daerah Khusus Ibukota Jakarta 12940
Hair Code Epicentrum 
+621-29889292
Hours: 10am – 10pm
Jl. Prof Dr. Satrio Kav. 3 – 5, RT.18/RW.4, Karet Kuningan, Setiabudi, Jakarta Selatan, Daerah Khusus Ibukota Jakarta 12940

 

5. Speaking of my most favorite thing: Sunday champagne brunch at Hotel Mulia. Back in 2011 when I was still single and bored with nothing much to do during the weekends (except for the top 4 above), my girlfriends and I made it a habit to have Sunday brunch together with free-flow wine and champagne.  Jakarta boasts of several hotels offering Sunday brunch, but I am most fond of the restaurants in Hotel Mulia, specifically, Il Mare.

First of all, the interior design of Hotel Mulia with its grandiose staircases makes me feel like a queen when I descend the stairs to go to the restaurant. Mulia has this old, elegant look that makes you feel like you’re an aristocrat of the olden days about to partake in a sumptuous feast of fresh oysters, lobster and champagne.

Oh yes, did I mention the fresh oysters already? What’s good about Il Mare is that the buffet spread is just enough in terms of size, but it doesn’t shortchange the customer. The buffet packs in a lot in terms of diversity in their offering – fresh seafood, sushi, sashimi, steak, pasta, grilled food, cheese and all the desserts you can think of.

I love the buffet brunches in Mulia, so much so that this deserves a separate blog entry!

Il Mare buffet with free-flowing wine and cocktails go for around Rp638,000.00++. Reservation is a must and when there are occasions such as Christmas or Chinese New Year, it’s always better to call a week ahead.

IL Mare, Mulia 
+621-5747777
Hours: 12pm – 2:30pm for brunch, 6pm – 10:30pm for dinner
Jl. Asia  Afrika, Senayan, RT.1/RW.3, Gelora, Kota Jakarta Pusat, Daerah Khusus Ibukota Jakarta 10270
This is my first Top 5 weekend hits in Jakarta. I will be posting more of my favorites soon. For now, it’s time for a lazy weekend.

SpongeBob: Stay away from Coron, Palawan!

[photo courtesy of PalawanIsland.org

In a surprising news yesterday, Nickelodeon announced that it will build an underwater resort theme park in Coron, Palawan.

Aside from the political goings-on in my country today, it is very rare that I get pissed off with news that I read. What else is new, right?

But this. This is a low blow.

Palawan is one of the last ecological frontiers in the Philippines. It is a marine sanctuary. It is one of the few pristine beaches that you can confidently swim in where the waters are crystal clear and you do not fear of chemical contamination.

Who in the world thought of this? Worse, who in his right mind approved it?

Nickelodeon has the gall to say that development will “advocate ocean protection.”

Ocean protection my ass.

This will ruin Coron.

I have very fond memories of Palawan and I choose to come back to it regularly because the beaches are clean and fresh.

I love Coron as it is.

To my fellow environmental advocates, to those who love Coron, Nickelodeon has no business to be in Palawan!

Please be part of the petition and sign up.coron-is-not-bikini-bottom

[Image courtesy of Save Philippine Seas]

Q&A MY JAKARTA

Late last year, the Traveling Titas of Manila asked me to about the highlights and my favorites in Jakarta, Indonesia. Check out their article here:

New on Traveling Titas & Co. : Insider knowledge from our network of frequent travellers and expat friends. On this Q&A, expat April Cabello lets us in on her Jakarta. From local designers to…

Source: Q&A MY JAKARTA

Welcoming 2017 with mindfulness

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“The days are long but the years are short.”

I have to quote Gretchen Rubin in her book “The Happiness Project,” as it perfectly encapsulated my exact thoughts.

Over the Christmas holidays, I was driving through the streets of Manila feeling nostalgic about its nooks and crannies that I so dearly miss, when I found myself asking: “Where did time go?” It felt like it was only yesterday that I was driving through Manila’s traffic gridlock, grocery shopping in S&R, or sipping coffee in one of my hidden happy corners.

Now, it’s been fifteen months since my re-expatriation back to Jakarta, although it was as if I left just very recently.

I had a major epiphany a few years ago that remains to be a perfect reminder today:

Time can just slip by if you are not mindful and deliberate.  That being said, grab life by the horns, live in the moment, live out your purpose. Fulfilling your life purpose is the only obligation you have to yourself.

That Biblical advice and prayer, to teach us how to number our days (Psalm 90:12), takes a richer meaning in this context, as we acknowledge the frailty of human existence.

We have this tendency to wait for the New Year to craft resolutions. Perhaps, we need that psychological stop-and-start, because nothing really prevents us from doing this anytime of the year. Somehow, the pressure to restart is always ON when a new year begins, so much so that within my circle of friends, it became a running joke every year when we see these hash tags on Facebook: #NewYearNewMe and #balikalindog (return of the allure). Every. Single. Year.

This coming year, amidst the writing and re-writing of resolutions, I think the most important decision that we can make is to live our lives with deliberate awareness that we don’t have unlimited time, and that every morning that we wake up is another chance to do that one thing that we’ve been aching to do but we keep on putting on hold.

Ask yourself. What’s the best thing to do today?

Wear your expensive perfume. Wear that special dress. There is no special occasion than today. Take out the china from the cupboard and use it. Call your parents. Call a long-time friend. Write that book. Take up a cause. Volunteer. Paint. Eat well. Go take that pilates class. Run the marathon. Cook. Ask someone out. Hug a friend. Say I love you. Pack your bags. Travel. Wander with wonder in your mind and heart.

Pursue your passion.

Peel yourself off the couch and just do. Netflix will still be there tomorrow, but don’t live your life vicariously through others. Or worse, through a TV series.

My wake up call (or calls, for that matter) for me to realize these things came through close friends who were cancer survivors, or who are still trying to survive it.

See, that’s the thing. Why do we need drastic wake up calls to get on our asses to do what we’ve always wanted to do?

This happened 3 or 4 years ago, but I still vividly and fondly remember it today: A friend of mine who courageously survived the big C was in my apartment for a small dinner get-together. One of my incense candles exploded and the oil stains reached my white ceiling. While I was fussing over it, she just gently reminded me:

“April. Live.”

From that day on, whenever I fuss over the tiniest, most mundane things or when I procrastinate and tell myself I will do what I need to do tomorrow, or the next day or the day after that, it’s as if there’s this subconscious alarm that clicks in my head and I hear my girlfriend tell me, once again, one more time, with feelings:

“April. Live.”

Everyday, I remember. And everyday, I became mindful because of her and what she said.

So this year, in the here and the now, how ’bout we all give mindful living a run?

“The days are long but the years are short.”

2017: Do what you love. Do it often.

First, thank you, 2016. There were a lot of challenging moments, but there were also enormous moments of triumphs worth toasting to.

Let me open 2017 with renewed hope and refreshed energy, and let me share with you my favorite Life Manifesto:

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Whenever I need a push and burst of inspiration, I read the Holstee Manifesto over and over again. This has been my life’s mantra for years now and it has guided me back to my true north in moments that I go astray.

This has been my constant reminder that I want to share as we all welcome 2017.

“Wear your passion.” Indeed. Everyday.

I wish everyone pure joy and wonder this New Year. Let’s have an amazing 2017, people! =)